Tweak querytree-dependency-extraction code so that columns of tables

Tweak querytree-dependency-extraction code so that columns of tables
that are explicitly JOINed are not considered dependencies unless they
are actually used in the query: mere presence in the joinaliasvars
list of a JOIN RTE doesn't count as being used.  The patch touches
a number of files because I needed to generalize the API of
query_tree_walker to support an additional flag bit, but the changes
are otherwise quite small.