Trouble Modifying Calling Pointer in Recursion

So I'm working on a BST, building the delete tools.

My code sequence seems to work right - Save not updating the parent or root and setting the pointer that sent it down to the deleted Node's address to NULL.

I'm passing a pointer to a pointer in my Erase and RemoveNode functions, so as to directly effect the left, right, or root data members that actually lead to the recursive call. In walking through the code, it sets *N to NULL in the remove function, but this is not reflected in the data of the calling object. Am I incorrect in using the pointer-of-a-pointer method? If so, is there a way I can recursively delete and be able to modify the prior node if the link is destroyed?

Node struct:

struct tNode
{
    tNode(int n)
    {
        data = n; 
        left = NULL; 
        right = NULL;
    }

    //Works, cleans all linked objects. 
    //Must remember to null links when removing wanted nodes
    ~tNode(void)
    {
        //cout << "Deleting " << data << endl;
        delete left;
        delete right;
    }

    // Data members
    int data;
    tNode* left;
    tNode* right;
};

Eraser function to recurse over the tree:

    void BinSearchTree::Erase(int n, tNode** N)
    {
        tNode* node = *N;
        if (root)
        {
            if (node->data > n) // post order, to avoid moving many times over
            {
                if (node->left)
                {
                    Erase(n, &node->left);
                }
            }
            else
            {
                if (node->right)
                {
                    Erase(n, &node->right);
                }
            }

            if (node->data == n)
            {
                RemoveNode(&node);
            }
        }
    }

And the RemoveNode function to handle actual deletion:

void BinSearchTree::RemoveNode(tNode** N)
{
    tNode* node = *N;
    if (!node->left && !node->right) // is leaf
    {
        delete node; // remove node
        size--;
        *N = NULL; // null pointer for above node/structure
    }
    else if (!node->left) // right child
    {
        tNode* temp = node->right; // to strip out copied node when finished
        node->data = node->right->data; // copy right node into current node
        node->right = node->right->right;
        node->left = node->right->left;

        temp->right = NULL; // NULL because node destructor is recursive
        temp->left = NULL; // ^^
        delete temp;
        size--;
    }
    else if (!node->right) // left child
    {
        tNode* temp = node->left; // to strip out copied node when finished
        node->data = node->left->data; // copy left node into current node
        node->right = node->left->right;
        node->left = node->left->left;

        temp->right = NULL; // NULL because node destructor is recursive
        temp->left = NULL; // ^^
        delete temp;
        size--;
    }
    else // 2 children
    {
        tNode* temp = node->right; // find ideal child -> left-most right child
        tNode* parent = NULL; // keep track of owner of ideal child
        while (temp->left)
        {
            parent = temp;
            temp = temp->left;
        }

        node->data = temp->data; // copy ideal child to root
        if (parent)
        {
            parent->left = temp->right; // case that left-most child has right child of it's own
        }
        RemoveNode(&temp);
        size--;
    }
}